I love to spoil and be spoiled. Gifts are never expected, but forever cherished.
To delight the senses
Greek / n., pron. / θɑːliːə / thar-lee-uh. Abundance; luxury; blooming life. One of three charities (or graces) in Greek mythology.
See: Potted plants (I’m a sucker for succulents and bamboo), prints by Rizzo Hell or trans and/or sex worker artists of color
Hear: Vinyl records (classic/psychedelic/alternative rock, classic Jazz, musical theater soundtracks, and 80s pop/rock are always favorites)
Touch: A pleasure toy to share, a playful piece of lingerie, refined date night/business attire (34D, US Size 6, 36” Bust, 28” Waist), a bladeless heating/cooling fan
Taste: ethically-sourced chocolates, a nice finishing olive oil, your favorite sake, bubbly, or loose-leaf tea
Smell: Tokyo Milk Dark, Clean, Escentric Molecules, Glossier, Jo Malone Fragrances
To expand the mind
German / n. / ˈbɪldʊŋ / bill-doong. Education, formation, acculturation, cultivation, development.
- Written word by Angela Davis, Donna Haraway, Mel Chen, Jasbir Puar, Sara Ahmed, Elizabeth Wilson, bell hooks, Eli Clare
- Surprise me from the catalogs of Verso or Pluto Press
- Gift a Skillshare membership or Masterclass
Pàn tóu (盼头)
To brighten my future
Chinese / n. / pæn tuː / pan too. Confident hope; something hoped for that is likely to happen; something to look forward to; good prospects.
– Gift stock (stockpile)
– Gift bitcoin https://bitcoinpaperwallet.com/
To uplift my community
Cherokee / n. / gæˈduːgiː / gah-doo-gee. Cooperative labor; working together for the common good.
Donations in my name to Sex Worker’s Outreach Project St. Louis, MTUG, the SPOT, Rustin’s Place, Arch City Defenders, Urban League, St. Louis Winter Outreach are most appreciated. Please share receipt of donation so I can be appropriately generous with you as well.
To remind me of you
German / n. / ˈhaːpzeːlɪçkaitn / hab-zee-lish-ky-ten. Lit. belongings; can imply one’s most precious, treasured possessions (especially if one has few possessions).
I want to experience the things you love and curate in your life. Sharing common lifestyle staples—the game changing piece of tech you can’t live without, the heirloom seeds you plant each spring, the wireless earbuds that live in your gym bag, your go-to journaling pens, or whatever sparks your joy—invites brief moments of experiential intimacy with you into my daily routine. My appreciation for beautifully designed and expertly constructed goods is firmly rooted in utility. Above all, I treasure gifts by their thoughtfulness. Even the smallest token given with intention will make my day and conjure fond memories of our time together when we’re far apart.